Children and Siblings

It is  pretty hard being young anyway and at times like this it can seem very lonely, but  you are not alone and there are others who understand.  Children might  feel  pushed out of the picture while all the focus is on their parents, or feel that they must support their parent and  not add to their grief by showing their own distress. Taking the first  step is hard, but now you have done it - so well done.

Niki has come a long way and here she talks about the journey - please click here for Niki's story.

If you feel you'd like to help others by sharing your story, please click here to let us know by sending an email.

RD4U is a website set up by Cruse and bereaved children and young people. Please click on the logo or click here to visit RD4U and see if using it will help you. Each year something like 250,000 visitors use the site and many post messages, poems and stories, and contribute to the time line and share experiences and feelings.

The feedback we get from these young visitors tells us that using RD4U helps them. They make comments like:

• it is helpful to see other people's stories who are in the same position and their different ways of coping
• this website really helped me, thankyou
• knowing that i am not alone in this really helps
  

There is also a page of useful links for children and young people on RD4U, which you will find if you click here.

At present there is not a specific group  set up for military children who have been bereaved, but we are considering whether this might be useful. If you think you would like to be part of such a group, which could be a virtual group like facebook, then  do let us know, or if you would like to  help us better understand the issues faced  by children and young adults from military families, or the brothers and sisters of young  service personnel  killed on duty, please contact us by email.

We want to help, and sharing feelings - as the users do on RD4U - can sometimes be a great support.
Click here for some stories and messages from bereaved brothers and sisters.

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