Children and young people: Key points to remember

The following list gives some  key points to remember concerning children, young people and grief.

  • No bereaved child or young person will respond to the death of someone close in the same way.
  • Keep the structure of the bereaved child or young person’s day / night as routine as possible.
  • Allow the bereaved child or young person to say how they feel and do not be offended if they are angry with you or do not want to talk.
  • Give the bereaved child or young person the time to explore their grief and support them as they mourn.
  • Do not feel that you have failed if you need to seek professional help for the bereaved child or young person. You are doing the right thing.
  • Put in place appropriate boundaries if a grieving child or young person is hurting themselves or others and explain why such boundaries are necessary.
  • Do not dismiss a bereaved child or young person’s real or perceived illness.
  • Talk things through with them in an open and honest way, remembering to listen to the child or young person.