Tips for coping from children and young pepole

This page gives are some suggestions for coping with bereavement put forward by children and young people who have been bereaved.

Some of the ideas were volunteered by bereaved children and young people who used the Cruse website, RD4U (now replaced by Hope Again) to share coping strategies with bereaved peers.

  • Get creative. Write a poem or letter to your loved one who has died. Keep a diary of how you are feeling so that you can pour your feelings on to the page.
  • Make a memory box. Gather together letters, badges, photographs, and keepsakes you have from your loved one and put them in to a special memory box that you can reopen and reminisce over when you need to.
  • Try to focus on some of the good times you and your loved one shared together.
  • Remember that people react to loss in different ways.
  • Talk to people; don’t let your hurt grow until you break down.
  • Just take one day at a time.
  • Visit the grave if you are ready to. It might make you feel closer to your loved one.
  • It is OK to feel sad, angry and scared and to cry. It is also OK to feel happy and enjoy things.
  • It is OK if the loved one you have lost is not in your thoughts all the time.
  • Hug those loved ones who are still here.
  • Remember that you are not alone and that help is out there if you need it.
  • Bereavement can seem to last forever, but it does get easier with time.