Supporting yourself | Cruse Bereavement Care

0808 808 1677

It is important that you take care of yourself following a bereavement.

One of the most helpful things is to talk about the person who has died and your relationship with them. Who you talk to will depend on you. It may be your family, friends, a faith/spiritual adviser, your GP or a support organisation.


  • Talk to other people about the person who has died, about your memories and your feelings.
  • Look after yourself. Eat properly and try to get enough rest (even if you can’t sleep).
  • Give yourself time and permission to grieve.
  • Seek help and support if you feel you need it.
  • Tell people what you need.


  • Isolate yourself (unless you have to, eg due to illness).
  • Keep your emotions bottled up.
  • Think you are weak for needing help.
  • Feel guilty if you are struggling to cope.
  • Rely on drugs or alcohol – the relief will only be temporary


Further help

Our booklet Restoring Hope gives more detail on how you may feel following a bereavement. Other publications are available from our online shop.

Grief is a natural process, and most people will cope with help and support from family and friends. For those who need additional specialist help, Cruse offers free confidential support for adults and children, and this can be by telephone or face-to-face.

Children and young people: Hope Again.