Types of Loss and How They Affect People Differently

Types of loss

•  Someone dying. When someone you love dies, you might feel sadness, anger, or shock. You might miss them every day or sometimes feel nothing at all. Both are normal. Looking at photos, talking about them, or doing something they liked can help.
•  A pet is dying. Pets are part of your family. Losing them can leave a big space in your day and heart. You might miss playing with them or hearing their sounds. You can remember them by drawing a picture, writing about them, or making a memory box./
•  Parents separating or divorcing. When parents split up, it can feel like everything is changing. You might feel worried, angry, or sad. You might even think it’s your fault, but it isn’t. Ask questions about what will happen next and talk to a trusted adult about how you feel.
•  Moving home or school. Change can feel exciting but also scary. You might miss your old friends, teachers, or familiar places. It’s normal to feel out of place for a while. Try to stay in touch with old friends and take small steps to make new ones.
•  A friend is moving away. Friendships changing can feel like a loss too. You might feel left out or lonely. It helps to stay in contact if you can, and to remember that new friendships will come in time.

How loss feels

Loss can affect your thoughts, body, and mood. You might cry more, feel tired, or struggle to sleep. You might find it hard to focus at school. Some people want to talk about it; others want quiet time. All reactions are normal. Your feelings might change from day to day.

It’s also normal to feel more than one emotion at once. You might feel sad and angry, or even relieved if something difficult has ended. Every feeling is valid.

Ways to cope

• Talk to someone you trust. You don’t have to tell them everything, just start with how you feel.
• Write, draw, or make music to express your emotions.
• Keep a daily routine. Eat, sleep, and move your body.
• Spend time outside. Fresh air can help clear your mind.
• Keep something comforting near you, like a photo, toy, or item that reminds you of good memories.

When to ask for help

If your feelings are strong all the time, if you stop doing things you used to enjoy, or if you ever feel unsafe, it’s important to talk to an adult right away. You can speak to your Parents/guardians, a family friend, GP, school nurse, or counsellor. You can also contact Childline on 0800 1111 or The Mix on 0808 808 4994 for free, confidential support. – or a link to our referral service is it’s a bereavement.

Everyone experiences loss differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. What matters most is being kind to yourself and giving yourself time to heal.