The festive season and grief

This time of year can be overwhelming, especially if you are grieving. Whether it is your first Christmas after the death of a loved one, your second, or many years later – it can be really hard to see reminders of joy all around us, even if you don’t celebrate Christmas yourself. It’s important to give yourself permission to feel however you feel, no emotion is wrong.

•  Do what is right for you

Try planning in advance how you’ll celebrate (or not). You might like to keep to some Christmas traditions or ways to remember someone who has died, or you might prefer to ignore Christmas altogether or do some volunteering. Try not to feel pressured into doing anything you’re not comfortable with. Sometimes families can find it difficult when they have different ideas about ways to grieve. Try to be sensitive to others’ needs and discuss yours openly.

•  Maintain a self-care routine

The Christmas period can disrupt your normal routine, and this can make it harder to look after yourself. Keeping regular patterns of sleeping and eating where possible can make a big difference. Connecting with friends and family can also help. It is common to drink more alcohol over the festive period but alcohol or recreational drugs only provide temporary relief. If you find yourself drinking to cope or numb the pain, please consider seeking help. Talking to someone you trust about grief or your feelings can be helpful, or contact Cruse via the helpline.

• Protect your peace

It can be tough when you are surrounded by happy images of families celebrating at this time of year. The weeks (or months) leading up to Christmas, or into the New Year can be just as difficult as Christmas Day itself. If it is getting too much, consider limiting the amount of social media or TV you watch. Give yourself permission to do what works for you.